Things That Actually Help

the stuff I reach for, reorder, and tell my friends about

Everything on this page is something I genuinely use, have tried, or am currently obsessed with. Just the real stuff that's made this whole perimenopause chapter a little more manageable — or at least a little more enjoyable.

A quick note: Some of the links on this page are affiliate links, which means I may earn a small commission if you purchase through them — at no extra cost to you. I only recommend things I actually use or have thoroughly researched. Your trust matters more to me than any commission. Full details on my disclosure page.

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Skincare

because perimenopause changed my skin overnight and nobody warned me

Serums & Treatment

Woman-FoundedIndie1% For The PlanetClimate Neutral

Earth Harbor Skincare

Earth Harbor Naturals

Founded by a toxicologist and herbalist who started mixing formulas in her treehouse kitchen. Small-batch, ocean-nutrient skincare that's organic, vegan, cruelty-free, and actually affordable ($14–$27). The bio-retinol serum is where I'd start.

🧴more skincare picks incomingcurrently testing — reviews coming to What I've Learned

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Supplements

the ones I've actually researched, not just seen on Instagram

🔬supplement deep-dives comingI'm not rushing this category — your health deserves the research

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Sleep & Cooling

for the 3am wake-ups and the "why am I on fire" moments

❄️cooling products coming soontesting cooling sheets, weighted blankets & bedding — stay tuned

😴sleep solutions loadingbecause we all deserve more than 4 hours

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Mind & Mood

for the brain fog, the anxiety spiral, and the "who even am I" days

🫶mental wellness picks comingapps, journals & resources I actually use — not just downloaded

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Essentials

the stuff that shows up at my door so I don't have to think about it

Grocery Delivery

SustainableAccessible

Thrive Market Membership

Thrive Market

Replaced my Amazon grocery habit entirely. Annual membership, free shipping over $49, and I set everything on auto-delivery so the oat milk creamer and dog food just… show up. One less thing my brain has to hold.

Secondhand Shopping

SustainableAccessible

thredUP

90% of my wardrobe comes from here. Filter by size, brand, and fabric — shop from your couch in lounge pants with no fluorescent lighting or fitting room mirrors. Secondhand, sensory-friendly, and actually affordable. The way getting dressed should feel.

✨more essentials coming soonas I try them, you'll find them here

This page grows as I do. I'll never recommend something I haven't used, researched, or genuinely believe could help. If something stops working for me, I'll tell you that too.

Got a product you think I should try? I'd love to hear about it — reach out anytime.

— Shea ♡